The common mistake many of us make is thinking that just because you slept with someone, you all have an emotional connection. It’s where you have the freedom to find out, essentially through trial, error, and an orgasm or two, what works for you, not only physically, but mentally and emotionally. It’s really about the exploration of self without the limitations of being anchored to one person. Change does not stop at simple including other white people who are not straight white men. The gag is, so many people are so accustomed to the rigid roles of representation that they’ve seen for so long that simply meeting the terms of inclusion of any “others” feels like an arduous stretch of comfort that looks like diversity. being a white gay man in a room of white straight men is not an example of diversity. being a white woman in a room of white men is not an example of diversity.

We have edges, and kitchens, and baby hairs, all of which need to be properly tended to with a skilled hand and a keen eye. Discrimination comes in many forms and indifference is one of them.īlack women’s hair is a varied assortment of curls and kinks, sometimes four different types of which are on one head.